I wanted to talk with you guys today about the very thing that gets in the way for most of us, including me at times, when it comes to reaching your goals.
These goals I am referring to aren’t always fitness related. Maybe you want to make a huge career change but you are too afraid of making the change and make up excuses as to why it won’t work. Although a lot of what I am going to share today is related to excuses getting in the way of reach my fitness goals, these concepts of not letting you get in the way of yourself can apply to dreams you want to achieve, life changes/ career changes/ relationship changes you may need to make. Because it all boils down to stopping the cycle of justifying to yourself, and making up reasons that stop you from getting to where you want to be.
I will be the first to admit, that I was the queen of excuses. All this ever did was keep me farther away from the place that I wanted to be. I would spend a lot of my time looking at other people, longing for their motivation, wishing I had the dedication to make the changes and push to do the things that they did. But I was always coming up short by setting all these limits for myself which stopped me from being able to create a formula where I would be successful.
This year, I decided that these barriers and these excuses would no longer hold me back. I needed to drop them. I’m going to share with you the biggest excuses that I would tell myself. It kind of embarrassing that I had so many but I want to put these out there for you, so that if you have some of these excuses in common with me- take some time to really think about where these limitations come from, and consider not allowing them to control you anymore.
1. Eating healthy is a lot of work– Yes, it does take some extra effort to plan out what you are going to eat, and prep those things. But if you have done your prep and made your plan, it saves you time in the long run for the day to day. If you have thought ahead, prepping those clean foods takes the same amount of time as waiting for a frozen meals to cook in the oven.
2. I can’t work out at home– this was a big one for me, and in my defence at the time that I used to say this, I didn’t really have a lot of responsibility. All I had to think about was myself. But once I became a mom and wanted to get fit again- this reason just didn’t fly. I needed to be able to get it done fast and quite frankly, I never went to the gym, so I needed to shake it off and get my sweat on at home!
3. I cannot get up in the morning and workout, I’m too tired – This one!! Listen, no matter how hard I have tried, I just don’t feel rested enough to do, and that’s ok because I know what other things work for me instead. You have to find what time of day works for you because we are all different. And let’s face it, some of us just are not morning people.
4. I have to workout before supper because I can’t workout after I eat – This one was a big one for me. I only gave myself the window of stopping at the gym, on the way home from work to workout. Once I became a mom, that was not really an option for me anymore either and so for a while I just wasn’t taking care of my body by being active and getting my heart pumping. I have learned instead perhaps eat a smaller meal, or eat half of it and then go back and finish the rest after you completed your workout, you’ll need the fuel anyways!
5. I don’t like to workout alone- I am someone who loves to be in the company of others- my cup is filled when I am in the presence of people that I love! So naturally, when it came to exercising ( which I was not really looking at it the way I look at it now) I always needed to have someone with me in order to make me complete the workout, or get to the gym.
6. I’ve had a really crappy day, I don’t feel like working out- Use it! Use the fuel from that bad day, that bad experience to fuel you through your workout. You will 10 times out of 10 finish feeling in a better state of mind than when you started. On the flip side of this though, sometimes, you really just don’t want to workout, you don’t want to eat that salad, or you don’t want to go to that class. And that’s ok! We need to remember that we will always have off days, and those off days are our souls begging us to take some quiet time to just be.
All of these things combined- I was making it nearly impossible for myself to make any changes or accomplish any fitness and health goals that I had, because I had put so many conditions, and limitations on actually getting there. Some of these excuses, were long standing and they really had become apart of my thought process, my subconscious thinking. I had to acknowledge that and make the conscious effort to break those thought patterns and create new healthy ones.
The last thing I want to mention and I even to this day still use it.. I don’t have the time. Well guess what, if it’s what you want, then you owe it to yourself to make the time. We only have one life to live, don’t spend it making excuses and holding yourself back.
The way I have come to see is that there are only two options, and this is for myself included. You either make excuses or you make progress.
We have to stop setting these limits on our selves of what we can achieve. If you really want something, and you are ready to put your mind to it, to not let anything, including you, stand in your way- that is when the magic really starts to happen. It’s when you develop the faith and the confidence in yourself to have control over what you do and the outcomes. To follow through on things you want to change and be successful doing it!
You are in charge of our own destiny. So own it.
Hugs and Kisses,